#GuestPost Age by Gail Ward Olmsted

I was so sure I had already posted this, then found to my disgust and horror that I hadn’t actually, so the Greatest of Apologies to the author (previous reviews of her books here) and I hope you all enjoy

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Length: 218 pages

Please note that the cover image leads to a universal Amazon buy link for the book

Age

What’s Age Got to Do with It?

“It’s just a number” “Age doesn’t matter” “You’re only as young as you feel”

You hear comments like this all the time.

But when it comes to two people in a romantic relationship, apparently age does matter. Specifically the difference in ages between the two people in the relationship. According to a recent study by Emory University in Atlanta, the wider the age gap in partners, the lower their chances are of relationship success. They polled 3000 married and recently divorced couples and found that a one year discrepancy in a couple’s ages makes them 3% more likely to divorce when compared to their same-aged counterparts. A five-year age gap makes them 18% more likely to split up. A ten-year difference makes them 39% more likely and when the gap is over ten years, the odds of divorce are huge! Uh-oh…In my latest contemporary romance Second Guessing, songwriter Jill is fourteen years older than boyband singer turned solo artist Ben. Despite the sizzling hot chemistry between them, did I set their romance up for failure? In my ‘happy ever after’ view, I pictured them together forever.

What about in real life? My oldest friend was married to a man thirteen years younger than her. Note that the marriage is in the past tense. According to her, age was not a factor in their breakup, but when you really start to think about it, issues like whether or not to have children, how to balance and manage careers and figuring out finances would seem to be even more challenging when there is a wide gap in age. A 30 year old might not be in a hurry to start a family or a retirement fund, but what about their 45 year old partner? Our needs and priorities change over time. Is it reasonable to assume that we’ll be in sync with our partner if we are in truly different stages in our lives?

Emory University didn’t indicate if same sex couples were included in the study or if the majority of the couples with the wide gap tended to be of the older man/younger woman variety. Society appears to continue to have a double standard when it comes to a difference in age between romantic partners. It seems perfectly acceptable for an older man to date and marry younger women, but the reverse? Not so much. Otherwise the term ‘cougar’ wouldn’t exist. I mean what do you call a man who dates younger women, besides ‘lucky’ that is?

In my wild twenties, I dated a few men significantly older than me but married a man born just 3 ½ years before me. It’s been 35 years, so I’m thinking that we’ve beaten the odds.

About the author

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Like JEEP TOUR’s main character Jackie Sullivan, I am a professor of marketing. I have taught at the college level for twenty years.  A hopeless romantic, I am married to the love of my life. I am a mom to two young adults and two cats and enjoy reading, music and travel.

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Driving on the Left by Gail Ward Olmsted

 

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Length: 262 pages

Please note that the cover image leads to a universal Amazon buy link for the book

What they say: 

A trip of a lifetime and a love that changes everything…

Becca Colby was not expecting to fall in love while vacationing in Ireland with her mother, yet she falls hard for sexy tour guide Sean Donovan. He’s everything she never knew she wanted, but a summer fling is a complication that she really doesn’t need right now. Becca’s got a life waiting for her back home, but Sean may be just too good to resist.

Her mom Jackie knows all too well how a seductive stranger can change the entire course of your life, so how can she advise her daughter to resist Sean’s charms? And besides, Jackie has a problem of her own. She needs to decide just how much she is willing to sacrifice for the man she loves.

Driving on the Left celebrates the unbreakable bond between mother and daughter: two women with only one week to make decisions that will affect the rest of their lives as they travel through the beautiful Irish countryside.

The Review: I actually read this a long while ago, in an early iteration and promptly put it on my list to review as soon as it was released. Needless to say it languished in my ‘tbr’ (to be reviewed) pile and today it’s up  along with the greatest of apologies to the author for letting it slip through the net.

From the blurb this is the story of Becca, a young girl on a trip to Ireland with her mother, but actually I’d put this more as Jackie’s story, as she muses over her own past love life, and watches her daughter grow up. I loved both characters, but was thrilled to have an older character to follow, as for a while there all I seemed to see were twenty and thirty somethings and I began to wonder what I’D read in the future (approaching thirty eight now and am starting to see many more light reads with older characters /mothers).

This is an Irishy road trip, with light humour and interesting characters as the pair follow a trail, taking in Irish countryside and meeting people as they go. The people on the bus are easy to warm to and provide a lot of entertainment. I’ll be honest, Sean wasn’t totally my cup of tea but I liked what his presence led to. Actually, it was a book I thought of a few times after I finished, picturing the bus of characters chatting and laughing as they wound around scenic roads. This was a very easy read, that rambles along with many enjoyable moments. Definitely recommended.

Rating: 4.5/5